Today (& tomorrow) is the semi-annual conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, aka the Mormon Church. Two days ago I wouldn’t have included a post about religion on my website, but today, things are different. I have spent much of my life being a “people pleaser”, making sure that everyone would like me and felt they could rely on me. I now can see the error in how living life that way has made me. I am spineless.
Wait, wait, wait. I know what you are thinking, how can being a likeable person be a bad way to live your life? In reading “Design is a Job” by Mike Monteiro, he states:
There’s a difference between being enjoyable to work with and being “nice.” Being nice means worrying about keeping up the appearance of harmony at the expense of being straightforward and fully engaged. Sometimes you need to tell a client they’re making the wrong call. Part of client services is being able to do that without coming off as a (jerk). But being afraid to do it because you’re too invested in being “nice” is worse than being a (jerk).
Far too often I shy away from having a difficult conversation and fold under the need to just be nice. I fail at being pleasant to work with, by just being nice, not only in the work place but in politics & religion as well.
I served a two year mission for the LDS church. That means my family supported me financially to go to a foreign country, learn their language and try to spread the gospel of Jesus Christ. I spent two years sharing my religion with other people in hopes they would find what I have found. So why is it so hard to stand as a witness of God now that I am back home and living my life?
Every time a friend on Facebook shares something political, I automatically click on that dropdown menu and “unsubscribe” from EVERYTHING they post from now on. Why? Granted people on the internet can get pretty fierce when debates happen. So I fold, become the “nice” guy in the middle and everyone is still my friend, right?
When I am 80 I don’t want to look back at my life and see how many times I side-stepped an important conversation just to get pastit. When I think of my heroes in life, they are people who in the face of ridicule, stood their ground. My heroes knew who they were.
Knowing who you are is a difficult thing in this day and age. There are wars waging on all side of us at all hours of the day, be them small or large. The fights of Coca-Cola vs. Pepsi, Ford vs. Chevy, Red vs. Blue, Republican vs. Democrat, Christian vs. Atheist and Good vs. Evil are but a few. We all have an opinion and a reason for choosing one side over the other, be it a tangible, moral, or subconscience reason. Standing on a side (of any of these issues) with your head held high is an admirable trait. It is a trait I want to have and work towards.
Today I state who I am and what I stand for. I hope you will too, and the next time you see me being “nice” and just side-stepping a hard conversation, hit me with a stupid stick and straighten me out.
Who Am I?
My name is Devin Bryce. I come from a line of honorable forefathers. I have traced my genealogy back many generations to learn where I come from.
I am a 24 year old happily married man. I married a girl who I had dated for a few years, and I have promised to spend eternity with her.
I graduated high school at 17 years old because I skipped first grade. I have attended some college emphasizing in Criminal Justice: Evidence Technology.
I have had a job since I was 14 years old. I have worked in fast food, criminal justice,banking, data-entry, roofing, marketing, and most recently graphic design & web development.
I am a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints and served a two year mission to Mexico to preach the gospel. Although I am weak in a daily study of the scriptures, I attend church regularly, and currently serve as a secretary to a quorum of the Priesthood in my congregation.
I am fluent in Spanish.
I am a new homeowner and just finished decorating my house pretty awesome.
I am addicted to technology. I blog, tweet, update my status, upload videos, subscribe to podcasts, push pixels in Photoshop and even pin things.
My political views can’t be tied to a party, or a candidate. Each issue our Nation faces, should be decided on by the people, not a leader. Although in November I plan on voting for Ron Paul, whether his name is on the ballot or not.
I enjoy watching sports, but not an avid fan by any means. I support the local teams aroundthe valley.
I read political & historical thrillers, fantasy books, and the occasional life hack style books. Paperback & on my Kindle.
I watch comedies, fantasy, action adventure and dramatic films. I try to avoid the movie theater and opt to watch Blu-Rays on my tv at home.
I listen to a huge range of music including Garth Brooks, Queen, Eminem, Bruce Springsteen, Dashboard Confessional and more. I have a large collection of mp3s from earlier years, but now listen to the radio or stream music online.
I am proud of who I am and I should not be afraid of sharing that.